The fifth (and final) in a series outlining why my family and I believe it is time for us to leave the Episcopal Church (read Part 1: A brief history, Part 2: A crack appears, Part 3: The deluge, and Part 4: The end). UPDATE: And don't forget the Addendum: Roma è chiamata.
So, we decided we needed to leave the Episcopal Church sooner than I had thought we might. The problem with leaving a church is that you are not just leaving a building and a service style, you are leaving people and a culture, an ethos if you will, that, if you have been brought up in ECUSA like I have, is very grounded in your soul—a certain way of doing “church.”
And now it is gone.
There are a few things I do know, however, that have become the parameters and priorities for my family (every person and family making this move or deciding to stay in ECUSA will have their own priorities, so please don’t think I’m criticizing anyone’s decision—I know how difficult this can be):
- To be biblically sound
- To have a discipline structure in place
- To offer youth programs that emphasize Christ
- To be part of a greater Christian community
- To be fairly close by
I am
not interested in joining another mainline Protestant denomination. If the idea of an Anglican Communion (which has had some groups leave, but no
official splitting) is important to me—to feel part of a larger global Christian presence—then joining the Presbyterians, the Lutherans, the Baptists, the Methodists, etc. would be a step backwards.
Fragmentation is not a gift of the Holy Spirit, and the breaking apart of these denominations over various reasons seems to me to show that they are not a full expression of God’s Spirit in this world. I'm beginning to have
serious doubts about the long-term efficiacy of the Protestant Reformation.
Also, all of these denominations seem to be just a few years short of finding themselves where ECUSA is now on
the issues of biblical authority and church discipline.
I also, for better or for worse, am not interested in joining one of the continuing Episcopal churches (APA, REC, etc.), even though it seems as though there has been great movement to start bringing those together with
Common Cause and the
Anglican Communion Network. For a family with children, these churches seem awfully isolated and small, and they are not
technically part of a greater global Christian family.
So, with those parameters, that leaves us with several options:
We started our exploration at our local
community church, which has great youth programs and a lot of outreach (and is very close by). We knew there might be a problem when we walked into the “church” (really an auditorium) and our son said,
“Where’s the altar?” I will say, it was a
great Bible study, but
not a church service as we recognized it. The service consisted of about 30 minutes of praise music from the band on stage, a few prayers, a great “sermon” (talk) from the pastor (very committed and Bible focused), then another song, another prayer, and we were done.
We decided it would make a great
Wednesday night Bible study, but left something lacking for a church service. I also feel community Christian churches are sometimes too
personality driven. A particular pastor develops a following that starts a church. What happens when he retires? Or deviates from the Christian path? There is nothing
behind a community church to keep it focused on anything other than what the pastor wants.
In
San Diego, we have quite a few
Anglican churches up and running, under the Southern Cone and Uganda, thanks to Bishop Mathes’s pastoral skills. The churches have worked hard together to create an Anglican presence here. One of the churches,
St. Timothy & St. Titus, has taken the lead in
organizing the youth and has done a great job in putting together
retreats and programs that draw
all of the Anglican kids in the area, including from Orange County. Unfortunately, St. TnT is quite a ways away and one of our priorities is
proximity. My husband commutes every weekday down to San Diego and the
last thing he wants to do on a Sunday is have
another commute. It also makes it difficult for us to get involved in weekday activities if the drive is too far. There are two Anglican churches somewhat closer to us and we are looking at both.
But my concern with the Anglican churches, which I am still working through, is
two-fold.
First, even though these churches have left ECUSA, there is still a lingering miasma of hurt and contention, within the churches and sometimes the clergy. These churches were part of the failed institutional structure of the Episcopal Church. That is
not so easy to discard even though they have moved under another Anglican entity. I
will say that
the service with ++Gregory Venables at
St. Anne’s Anglican in Oceanside was a joyous, forward-looking event that all of the local Anglican church participated in. If that feeling of moving on and focusing on God can eventually become the dominant thrust in these churches, that would be wonderful indeed.
My other concern is the overriding one of
discipline in the Anglican Communion. Right now, there is none. Will that change? What is to keep what happened with ECUSA from happening again with another group? There is no
there there to look to. The
Instruments of Communion are broken and ignored. How will that change?
Lambeth seems geared towards keeping
anything from happening or any decision from being made definitively. And I don’t believe an
Anglican Covenant will fundamentally change anything. We
have our Covenant Agreement, it’s called the
Bible and the Book of Common Prayer. If a covenant does end up being adopted at some point, I think one of two things will happen. Either the covenant will be so
anemic as to be pointless or the covenant will be
ignored. Neither of these outcomes will bode well for the Anglican Communion.
So that moves us down to the
Orthodox Church. I’m the first to admit I don’t know that much about it except that it strives to remain as the closest idea of the early church. Other than that, it seems to be present in this country divided into
ethnic groups. We have the
Greek Orthodox, the
Russian Orthodox, the
Armenian Orthodox, etc. With the last name of
Coletta, I’m looking for the
Italian Orthodox and I don’t see it (well, actually I guess that’s the Roman Catholic Church). There are
Antiochian Orthodox churches in the area but they are way down in San Diego and too far away. We do have friends who left ECUSA and now go to the Greek Orthodox Church nearby who have invited us to visit with them
(thanks, Jeff and Claudia!) which we will have to do before we make any final decisions.
And now we’re at our last possibility—the
Roman Catholic Church. First off, there is one right up the street—less than five minutes by car (so
how shallow can
I be? Hey, try me!). We have been a few times, and to see the number of children there makes you realize right away that you’re
not at an Episcopal Church! My main concern here is that there are
areas of doctrine I’m not sure about (although I’m willing to give the church the benefit of the doubt—after years of ECUSA doing its own thing, there is something nice about admitting that I personally don’t
have all the answers and that maybe, just maybe, the greater Church does know a thing or two that I don’t, since she has been thinking about them for 2,000 years).
But going to the Roman Catholic Church in a sense
closes the door on being Anglican. You don’t just start
going to a Catholic church—you
join a Catholic church. You
become Catholic. You can’t get away with saying,
well, we’re just going here for a while. No, you have to
commit to becoming a Roman Catholic. That’s a big step and not to be taken lightly.
So here’s my chart:
| Priorities | Churches |
| Community | Local Anglican | Orthodox | Roman Catholic |
| To be biblically sound | Y | Y | Y | Y |
| To have a discipline structure in place | ? | ? | Y | Y |
| To offer youth programs that emphasize Christ | Y | Y | ? | Y |
| To be part of a greater Christian community | N | Y | ? | Y |
| To be fairly close by | Y | ? | N | Y |
(I have no idea why there is such a big gap here-sorry!)
So, we are
still in discernment and will be visiting churches over the summer and I will be doing more reading on various doctrinal and theological differences . . .
and we will see
where God directs.